By getting to know yourself with your fears and your doubts. By being alert, when these fears and doubts appear. Embrace them with love and accept the way you are with your doubts and triggers.
This way you will learn to love yourself with your good part and your black part.
There is no person in this world who has no black part. That is the imprint of humanity. Our duty is to learn about our pattern and become alert of our repeating behavior. By realizing that pattern we will be able to slowly correct it with love and patience.
picture by Lyell Parry