Expectations is the source of conflict, it’s what you imagine is important, it’s not going with the flow. It's not you to decide what another person needs to think, to do or be convinced of.
Your expectation is your movie in your head and does not have to do, with what is going around in a complex system. It is the way you see it, but you only see part of what is going on. You do not know what the other person is struggling with. You only see what you want to see and the way you feel, what is going on.
In humanity, there are many influences and subjects that come together to create the action and the result.
You cannot consider yourself knowing it all. By having expectations you do, however, pretend to know it all.
Be more humble, go with the flow, go with the DAO,
no action is action, no expectation is love, you will be surprised.